Okay, Adam I have to admit I think you are assuming alot by your comments. Number one I am not trying to steal anything how can you steal what is freely given with the exception of a backlink/credit link?
Number two I am not a dude, don't assume gender. And dude can be an insult when you don't know someone. As far as doing better with the appearance, that is a matter of opinion. I happen to like the appearance.
Number three I am not a techie so I might have used the wrong terminology. Big hairy deal, many internet marketers are not techies. Who do you think supports all of those web designers and coders at sites like Guru.com and rentacoder, etc. What I mean is the theme I currently have has absolutely no options for hardly anything I want to do. I can't get sociable or trackback urls to show up. As far as I am concerned the backend is anything that is not visible through a web browser.
Any way, I really wanted someone to help me not just make comments which is why I am not a great lover of forums. But this one is much better than most.