Where(as in how many lines into menus_menu1.css) should I paste the code for to change menu icons? I have tried seemingly everything and they wont change.

Look in CSS settings > Using Menu icons

I have, and i have changed all of the numbers and tried pasting into the css but it hasn't done a thing

You make the necessary changes in the Using Menu Icons and then cut and paste the code in the menu_menu1.css

I'm in the same boat. Pasted this:

/* Part 1- for default state: */
#menu1 .about > a > i { background-position: 0px -1008px; }
#menu1 .home > a > i { background-position: 0px -24px; }
#menu1 .services > a > i { background-position: 0px -1008px; }
/* Part 2 - for hover state: */
#menu1 .about:hover > a > i, #menu1 .about.active > a > i { background-position: -24px -1008px; }
#menu1 .home:hover > a > i, #menu1 .home.active > a > i { background-position: -24px -24px; }
#menu1 .services:hover > a > i, #menu1 .services.active > a > i { background-position: -24px -1008px; }

..into the menus_menu1.css file and got no changes.

What is the url? are you using a automatic menu or custom WP menu?

try the class '.page-about' etc

Excellent. It was the '.page-' piece that was missing. Thank you as always.

Hoorayyy Thank you! cant believe I missed something so little but so prevalent!