expand width of menu, hover help

Hi Juggledad,
I am a diamond member and also made a donation to you with PayPal this morning.

I am having trouble getting my menu to go across the width. I thought I followed your instructions, but must have done something wrong. I don't want borders between the items, but want a dashed border underneath.

I would also like a color change when I hover, but to go back to original color after clicking instead of staying the hover color when you're on the clicked page.

Thank you.

Daisy24
Ellen

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