you need to look at the source code and determine what CSS is being applied and then duplicate that for the areas you want with the correct CSS Selectors. For example, your issue (1)
Looking at the source, you see that the 'Recent Posts' have an ID of 'recent-posts-3' and the classes 'widget widget_recent_entries'. Searching for them in the CSS you will find this nugget
HTML Code:
div.widget ul li {
display:block;
margin:2px 0 2px 0px;
padding:0 0 0 5px;
border-left:solid 5px #993333
}
this is putting a left border on the list item in the unordered list that is in the div with a class of 'widget'. In your case you have coded a text widget and are not using an unordered list, so the code that is generated is this
HTML Code:
<div id="text-8" class="widget widget_text">
<div class="widget-title">
<h3>Recovering REALTORŪ</h3></div>
<div class="textwidget">
<a href="http://www.fiftytolife.com">
<font color="#993333">
<font-weight="regular">Home</font></a>
<br>
<a href="http://www.fiftytolife.com/2006/who-is-saratica/">
<font color="#993333">
<font-weight="regular">Meet Sally</font></a>
<br>
<a href="http://eepurl.com/ZmBk" target="_blank">
<font color="#993333">
<font-weight="regular">Subscribe by Email</font></a>
<br>
<br>
<a href="http://www3.clustrmaps.com/counter/maps.php?url=http://www.fiftytolife.com" id="clustrMapsLink">
<img src="http://www3.clustrmaps.com/counter/index2.php?url=http://www.fiftytolife.com" style="border:0px;" alt="Locations of visitors to this page" title="Locations of visitors to this page" id="clustrMapsImg" onerror="this.onerror=null; this.src='http://www2.clustrmaps.com/images/clustrmaps-back-soon.jpg'; document.getElementById('clustrMapsLink').href='http://www2.clustrmaps.com';" />
</a>
</div>
</div>
so you need to code a new CSS Selector like
HTML Code:
div#text-8 div.textwidget a
with the CSS rules from above and put it in the CSS Inserts option of the theme. You will see a gap between the items in the list because of the <br>'s you have coded.
A good place to learn CSS if you are going to be messing with the styling, is w3schools.com/css