Seems like you could use an input on this page similar to "Background color: Hover" called "Background color: Pressed" .... the links in the bar are red when pressed by default and I see no way to change it other than going into the stylesheet and changing this:

ul.rMenu li.sfhover a:active,
ul.rMenu li:hover a:active
{
color: #fff;
background-color: #c00;
}

You're right, noted. Also a "current" style is missing for the menu tabs. Will include both in 3.2 which will come soon as I want to fix that "Suhosin" max 200 variables issue, too