(Change the page order at Manage -> Pages -> Click on page title -> Page Order)
where do I find this?

Wordpress dashboard->page->edit->Attributes->order
you will have to set a number for each page, this number will be the sequence in the page order so if you have page A, B, C and D and set the page order A=3, B=7, C=2 D=5, you will see the pages as C, A, D, B

I found this under Pages -> Quick Edit -> Order.
I also noticed that if i was using %page-left for the menu I had to number them backward. The highest number on the left, lowest at the edge.